An Inspiration to us All

This is Michelle... we got to come home for a few weeks while I was on maternity leave and I was able to go to the Dr and treatments with my mom; thought I'd give an update!

It never ceases to amaze me how she continues to do anything and everything for her family; if you ask her how she's feeling she will tell you she's doing good or she's just fine. However for the last several weeks... maybe even months that hasn't really been the case.  She came out and stayed with us the end of April and watching her move and interact with the kids was so hard for me... I could tell that she was in a lot of pain and very uncomfortable with every movement she made.  Her oncologist was feeling like this was her bone marrow regenerating, being that some of her chemo medications were finished at the end of March; however, the pain was worsening rather than getting better as time progressed.  She has been taking some pain medications, with minimal relief; she does not like to take any medications that she does not need, so I think it was frustrating for her to have to take this regularly and continue to be in pain. She had another appointment with the doctor on May 29, so my dad and I went with her. (Cari was nice enough to let me step in and take over her job :) ) Dr Haslem spent a lot of time with us and we were able to switch a few of her medications in hope of getting her some relief; he also felt like Physical Therapy would be a good option for her.  He went over our long term management and was very hopeful that we would never have to fight this battle again!! With Moms type of cancer he said the recurrence rate is about 15% after her surgery, chemo and radiation... 15% is unfortunately not 0, but prior to her treatment it is 40%, so we'll take it  and leave it in the Lords hands.

She has one week left of radiation and has tolerated that well, her skin looks sunburned over her chest, but so far she hasn't had any blistering and the discomfort has been minimal... at least that she tells me!!  The radiation definitely causes some fatigue, but she fights through it and never complains.  Her pain has been much better with the new medications and I think she's enjoying the Physical Therapy... she and all of us are very hopeful that she can be medication free in the near future. Her hair is starting to grow back in, she looks gorgeous, it's a pretty gray color, Danielle's making her wait to color it to see if she likes the color it comes in!

Lexi trying on Grandmas wig... After we got home Lexi informed us that she had shaved her head and was wearing a wig!!

Mom will probably hate that I put this picture up... but I love it, Danielle took this one and it's just another example of my moms strength.  We have however put a stop to her doing the yard work, thanks to Wayne and Danielle who have stepped in!

We all go through different trials and tribulations and sometimes we may not understand why. I wish more than anything that Mom didn't have to go through this, but what a blessing it is to have such an amazing family and such an amazing Heavenly Father who loves us, supports us and strengthens us during our trials.  I'm so grateful that we have each other and it's so important to overlook the flaws that we have and stand by each other.  Ray and I will be moving back to St George the beginning of August and can't wait to be closer!!  We will be running... maybe walking, the Breast Cancer 5k in St George in October and would love anybody and everybody who would like to do this with us in support of Mom and all those who are fighting this battle!!

Danielle's question (second opinion?)

So as Danielle and I were visiting and I told her that I would not take the Activella that I was taking for hot flashes if I had to do it over again.  Heres the question, "Mom if you feel that way shouldn't you be telling other women that?"  Legitimate question.  I have no proof of what caused this cancer so I don't feel its fair to assume.  Looking back I was assured that the cyst was of no concern even that it was not hiding anything, I guess I would council women to get a second opinion or to get rid of anything thats there thats not supposed to be.  I wish I would have drained the cyst 18 months earlier but then again this is how Heavenly Father needed things to play out.  I have learned so much and am a much more compassionate and thoughtful per son because of what I'm going through.

Last Day of Chemo (I still have lessons to learn)

Well it's my last day for chemo and I should be so excited but not feeling excited probably because the symptoms all hit again.  Cari has been to every appointment with me to be sure I'm getting proper care and keep things positive, except for today, her family was leaving for California so no personal nurse to be sure things are right.  Dr. Haslem also was out of town so after researching docs Cari had me seeing a lady so when a man walked in the room I was caught a little off guard.  Tara and Bryan came with me so that was comforting.  The doctor took a look at my lab results and said well you won't be having treatment today, my heart sank and I thought he was kidding. I tried to fight the tears but that wasn't working! After telling him that my numbers have been this low or lower in the past and doctor Haslem still went ahead he told me absolutely no treatment today.  Poor Tara didn't know what to do because she could tell how upset I was.  I knew if my doc was there he would have done it so that was very frustrating for me. (I need to learn there is a reason for everything that happens just have faith) So I chakkenged him a little and said well so what are you going to do to get my numbers up so this doesn't happen next week too?  He said there was a shot I could do but it has to be done 4 days in a row and well with the weekend that not convenient.  Pretty much he was not wanting to deal with me and let my doc deal with it when he got back.  So soon texting and phone calls started with Tara, Cari and Michelle.  Cari called me and said if you really feel that you need to have this chemo treatment happen today I'll call and it will happen today!  I told her I'm really disappointed but its okay.  Then Michelle and Cari visited and were very upset that he wasn't willing to do the shots so they decided one of them would give this doc a call and set  him straight on the shots.  When Michelle heard how Cari was going to let this doc know that the shots will be done she decided to be the one to make the call.  It is so wonderful to have my family supporting and looking out for me!! So needless to say I started the shots so we would not have this disappointment next week.  The shots were effective and my numbers were higher than they have ever been. Here's where my miracle happens.  Krischelle and Brin came to stay at the house and they were both sick, if I would have had treatment that day I would have been at my lowest counts and that could have been devastating to get sick at that point.  Instead my counts were up so when I did get sick it only took two antibiotics to get me healthy again.  I have had my last chemo and am waiting for the side effects to wear off, they are slowly leaving I think.  Bryan and I went for a walk and he was making me laugh and I realized how long its been since I truly laughed and felt light hearted, it felt so wonderful.  So laugh today and recognize that it really does feel good!!!

Life is so Fun! (without symptoms)

I was driving home and it had been a week since I have felt well enough to drive myself anywhere and I just got the biggest smile on my face and realized that "Life is fun, I felt like I was 16 yrs old and just got my drivers license and this is the first time I've driven on my own. I'm so grateful for my life and my love for life!" 
Back to symptoms, I'm not gonna lie this really sucks!! Where to start, I guess I'll just list them.
The end of my tongue is numb all the time, so weird, and alot of times my lips are numb and always so dried out.  I got sores on my tongue once and they were awful but they haven't come back and hopefully won't.  Everything tastes like salt for about 2 weeks of the month, but I'm learning to eat anyways.  My eyes are so sensitive to the sun and bright lights and for some reason they just drop tears (I do cry alot) but thats not it my eyes just tear all the time.  My skin gets very dried out on my hands to where it will just be bright red and then peel off. My arms get these weird red spots all over them but no pain their just ugly.  I guess the big one is my hair falling out (really there are so many worse things in life) My hair didn't just fall out all at once.  I would run my fingers thru my hair and  my hand would just be full of hair so I decided we would shave it so I didn't have hair all over the bedroom and bathroom.  There are times when the skin on my head just hurts.  When we shaved my head I did a full body shave and haven't shaved since and all is silky smooth still. (Don't be jealous but it truly is nice) I did have my eyebrows tattooed on and the weird part is part of them are still there and my eyelashes are still there which is such a blessing, I can just see myself with my fake eyelashes falling off half way thru the day and my eyebrow pencil smudged across my face! I'm so vain, bald and I'm still vain so character traits run deep.  I was getting a wart on my hand and  had 2 others and they are gone so all is not negative.  Hot flashes are pretty steady as is fatigue.  The nasuea is a big deal but the meds control it so well. I just hate putting all these pills inside my poor body. 
I am either having diahrrea and can't keep any food in or I'm constipated and having stomach cramps.  Sleep hasn't been to bad thanks to my meds. My balance has not been so good, I almost fell down the steps when Holly was here with me visiting, good reason not to ride my bike.  I take Claritan every morning and it seems to keep me from shooting pain thru my body.  Before I learned about Claritan it felt like pain was just shooting thru me all the time, now I just get like restless legs that won't relax.  I've learned to only eat about 1/3 of a meal and then I won't get sick, should be good weight loss but I forget sometimes and get sick because I love food and treats. 
Enough complaining,  I truly am so blessed that I can take all the meds that I hate so much and I can usually function pretty well.  I do realize that I am so blessed to be going thru this with my end result being no cancer left anywhere!! What a true blessing.  And seriously my poor breasts hurt for so long we went from the drainage to the biopsy to the surgery to a port, there's a true blessing theres no more pain in this area!